In the safety of trauma-informed space prioritizing queer and trans people of color, I support you in using your own innate wisdom to create your path to healing, to transformation.
trauma-informed healing
My commitment to trauma-informed healing and self-compassion is the foundation of my work.
Trauma-informed means meeting you where you are, not where I want you to be.
It means offering many different ways of doing things and seeing what you find supportive, versus forcing you to use just one technique and making you feel bad if you "fail".
Trauma-informed work is rooted in safe space.
Space where you don't have to do the labor of explaining your identities. They may be shared with others, or there are others who have their own multiple identities and therein lies the understanding. I don't jolt your nervous system with assumptions that I share your exact journey either because that can feel just as violating, and it’s just not true.
Being a trauma-informed practitioner means I am in dialogue with you about everything and how it feels, how you receive it, how we must change it so it works for you.
baby steps
It’s like those diets folks start on January 1 that are abandoned by January 15. If we try to do it with an all-or-nothing attitude, most of us won’t last for the long haul. And self-care is for the long haul.
So instead, we start where you are. I teach you one self-care tool at a time and support you in integrating it with patience and compassion.
Working with your innate wisdom, we design a practice that suits your personality and lifestyle and that will last a lifetime. With compassion and gentleness towards yourself, take small, manageable steps, over time, to forge a path of healing and self-love.
“you are enough”
Many of us spent our lives being told we were less than. Here, the message is always; “you are enough”, just the way you are.
With me, the message is always: you are doing enough. Whether you practice at home or not, whether you forget to do some of the techniques one day or one week or one month, we always start over.
I am always here for you, without shame or blame. Because we are all human. We work with your humanity not against it.
working with your humanity
We meet you where you are. Right now. So if we notice that daily meditation isn’t working, we aim for 2 or 3 times a week. We observe honestly what you do have space for and we start there.
This is not about perfection. It’s about the commitment. The commitment to come back to the practice to come back to yourself.
So each week, when we meet and I ask you how the week before went, how you showed up for yourself, I’m not listening for the things you did not do (and most folks will feel bad and say, “I didn’t meditate everyday!”). I’m listening for what you did do. And then I reflect that back to you. How you did show up for yourself. We are doing more than we realize. We are so used to being hard on ourselves, we aren’t used to celebrating what we are doing well. That’s what I’m here for. That is the muscle we support you in building.